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Balance your life
I am clearly not the world’s expert on this… but I am always working to try to be better and so should you. I truly believe it will make you more productive not less.
Rebekah's corollary to balancing your life: the not to do list
When I was in graduate school, my advisor had a whiteboard in her office with lists (and lists) of tasks to be completed. They were exhaustive and exhausting (just to look at – never mind do). One day I noticed a new list had appeared: the someday list. I thought this was a beautiful concept. But, alas, I am guilt-ridden by nature and my own someday list just accentuated what I had still left undone. So now I have a new list. It is called the not-to-do list and I add to it religiously. It contains all the stuff in life I am just letting go of. Professionally and personally. For good. Have yourself a Not To Do list. Respect those commitments.
I am not a sports fan but that saying “offense wins games; defense wins championships” has seemed more and more true as I move through my professional life. The time for what you do is generated by what you don’t. It is important to choose what you do wisely. It is at least as critical to choose what you will leave undone.
We each have our own unique circumstances and priorities. Honor yours. Never judge yourself by comparing where you are to others. There will always be people ahead of you and you will beat yourself up too much. You really need to get into a habit of defining success internally rather than externally (achieving your personal best rather than having a favorable record compared to particular individuals.) Sooooo hard to do but so important to try! You will have plenty of comparing yourself to others inflicted on you throughout your career. You should work hard to not make it worse by doing it to yourself.
Be accountable
“It is our relation to circumstances that determines their influence over us. The same wind that carries one vessel into port may blow another off shore.” – Bovee
Position yourself for success. More than anything else I believe we are all responsible for the choices that we make and that we make our own opportunities. If you don’t like your project, change it. If you feel you are not progressing fast enough, figure out why and what you will do about it. If you are stressed out by working too hard, slow down. Talk to me. Talk to your friends. First, figure out what you want (as opposed to what you think you should want) and then we will work together to make it happen.
Be forgiving of others but mostly of yourself
Because at times you are just going to blow it – give a terrible talk, write a horrible paper, spend too long on an idea which does not pan out, say something to someone in lab you wish you hadn’t, whatever. Like everything else in life, the trick here is not figuring out how not to fall down (does not work as a life strategy) but figuring out how to get back up again once you do.
Pay it forward
When you get started in the lab on most projects there will be other people involved in training you, teaching you, mentoring you, etc. How do you pay it back? Really you can’t. But what you can do is -- when the times comes around -- pay it forward, This is fundamentally how families work and why they are such a critical social construct. When I am looking for people to join the lab, one of the things I look for most strongly is people who I think are going to pay it forward and make the lab and the world a better place than they found it.
Careful with your choices
I am not a religious person but I come from a very religious family. Out of everything I read and studied (a lot!) two words stayed with me: tikkun olam. Roughly speaking this translates to “repair the world.” The basic concept is that every action you take, every word you say takes a step toward towards tearing the world apart or bringing it together, repairing (in some translations, transforming) what is broken. I believe this concept applies to not only the external world but to our internal worlds as well. I define personal success by making the correct choice, the repairing choice in my words, my action, and my thoughts ever more frequently as I move through life. How do you define success? Is it an achievable (not dependent on external circumstance) definition?
Questions & Answers
what is defense mechanism
what is defense mechanisms
Chinaza
I'm interested in biological psychology and cognitive psychology
what does preconceived mean
How can I develope my cognitive domain
why is communication effective
Communication is effective because it allows individuals to share ideas, thoughts, and information with others.
effective communication can lead to improved outcomes in various settings, including personal relationships, business environments, and educational settings. By communicating effectively, individuals can negotiate effectively, solve problems collaboratively, and work towards common goals.
it starts up serve and return practice/assessments.it helps find voice talking therapy also assessments through relaxed conversation.
miss
Every time someone flushes a toilet in the apartment building, the person begins to jumb back automatically after hearing the flush, before the water temperature changes. Identify the types of learning, if it is classical conditioning identify the NS, UCS, CS and CR. If it is operant conditioning, identify the type of consequence positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement or punishment
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Wekolamo
because it helps many people around the world to understand how to interact with other people and understand them well, for example at work (job).
Agreed 👍 There are many parts of our brains and behaviors, we really need to get to know. Blessings for everyone and happy Sunday!
ARC
A child is a member of community not society elucidate ?
Isn't practices worldwide, be it psychology, be it science. isn't much just a false belief of control over something the mind cannot truly comprehend?
compare and contrast skinner's perspective on personality development on freud
Skinner skipped the whole unconscious phenomenon and rather emphasized on classical conditioning
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explain how nature and nurture affect the development and later the productivity of an individual.
nature is an hereditary factor while nurture is an environmental factor which constitute an individual personality. so if an individual's parent has a deviant behavior and was also brought up in an deviant environment, observation of the behavior and the inborn trait we make the individual deviant.
Samuel
I am taking this course because I am hoping that I could somehow learn more about my chosen field of interest and due to the fact that being a PsyD really ignites my passion as an individual the more I hope to learn about developing and literally explore the complexity of my critical thinking skills
and having a good philosophy of the world is like a sandwich and a peanut butter 👍
Jonathan
generally amnesi how long yrs memory loss
interpersonal relationships
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OpenStax, 2008 nsf advance workshop: negotiating the ideal faculty position. OpenStax CNX. Feb 24, 2010 Download for free at http://cnx.org/content/col10628/1.3
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